Beyond the Blues December 7, 2009

Gambhir right to put family before cricket

Some sections of the media had areal go at Gautam Gambhir for missing the final Test beacuse of his sister's wedding, but he took the right decision

Hi guys,

Gautam Gambhir missed the third Test match against Sri Lanka to be there at his sister’s wedding. While the Indian team and captain MS Dhoni understood his predicament some of the Indian media had a real go at Gambhir. One news channel went to the extent of doing a half an hour show on whether ‘Desh bada ya behen?’ (Is sister bigger than the country?). This was the most ridiculous piece of news I’d come across in recent times. How can one stoop down to such level?

Haven’t cricketers done enough to prove their love for their country? Remember Sachin going back to play the World Cup match immediately after his father’s death? Or Kumble playing in the West Indies with a broken jaw? There are incidents like these which everyone knows of and then there are plenty more which are not brought into public domain. Cricket is as much a mental game as it is physical. There are things beyond physical fitness which have an impact on your game. It could be a sour relationship with your spouse, parent’s health, and children’s problems at home to name a few. Rarely have we seen Indian cricketers taking a break to address these issues (players taking a break is common in countries like England and Australia) so one must respect when Rahul Dravid wanted to be with his wife during the birth of their second child or Gautam attending his sister’s wedding.

We cricketers have made peace with the hectic life cricket brings along. Important days like birthdays, anniversaries, and festivals mean very little to us. Not that we don’t feel like spending these special days with our loved ones but we know that it isn’t possible. And we are fine with it.

But then there are certain things that happen only once in your life and you don’t want to be away at that time. Sister’s wedding is one such moment. Hence please spare the man for doing what most of us would have done. Just that he happens to play for the country doesn’t mean that he’s not human.

I’ve known and seen Gautam right from the time he made his first-class debut against Rajasthan. He’s extremely serious about his cricket and above all a patriot at heart. He wears his heart on the sleeve and would go to any extent to serve his country. I have very little doubt that had he not become a cricketer he would’ve been a soldier.

Moreover, wouldn’t Gautam be the last person wanting to miss a Test match at this juncture of his career? He’s enjoying a purple patch and we cricketers know the importance of being in form. One tries to score as much as possible because you don’t know when the runs would dry up.

While this post has nothing to do with domestic cricket, a lot of players at the first-class level go through the same dilemma from time to time. Just that the media doesn’t feel the need to play it up and hence you don’t get to know about it.


Former India opener Aakash Chopra is the author of Out of the Blue, an account of Rajasthan's 2010-11 Ranji Trophy victory. His website is here and his Twitter feed here

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  • testli5504537 on January 20, 2010, 23:11 GMT

    i don't understand how can one expect one to miss his child's birth or sisters wedding just for a cricket match.....after all it's just a game

  • testli5504537 on January 20, 2010, 23:10 GMT

    i don't understand how can one expect one to miss his child's birth or sisters wedding just for a cricket match.....after all it's just a game

  • testli5504537 on December 18, 2009, 8:08 GMT

    Totally agree with Akash,. After all Cricket is a game and Cricketers are professional. They also deserves leaves specially when the event like Sister's marriage is gonna happen. Just replace yourself with Gauti, how we react if our Boss did not give us leave. At last Cricket is team game and we are having Sachin , Dravid like legends in our team So there is no issue if Gauti is not playing.

  • testli5504537 on December 18, 2009, 6:53 GMT

    He is a best player of india.i liked him for bating style he has better technic and patients batsman.

  • testli5504537 on December 18, 2009, 5:12 GMT

    I simply dont understand the media attitude, it seems that they dont have any family values. As far as I know the hindu traditions Raksha Bandhan is such a sacred bond that even the girl who ties it to anybody beside her real brother he treats her as her real sister, therfore it was natural for Gautum to be beside her sister at her marriage, brother & sisters are more a freind than the actual relation. So my request to media is to please be sensible to put headlines like that.

  • testli5504537 on December 16, 2009, 16:25 GMT

    If I was a cricketer and: India was in the world cup final and my loved one is on a death heck with the match. India was in the world cup final and my sister is getting married...heck with the wedding. India is playing a regular series and my sister is getting married...sister it is. All said, it is the individual's decision and learn to respect his decision rather than point and jaideep

  • testli5504537 on December 16, 2009, 13:42 GMT

    After all its just a game, its not life. You can play another match but...

  • testli5504537 on December 14, 2009, 20:28 GMT

    Do people serving the country during the time of war get a break to attend personal needs?

  • testli5504537 on December 14, 2009, 15:59 GMT

    I'm sorry I don't agree with what Gambhir did. When Gambhir is getting paid crores of rupees then he's fine with it, but when it comes down to this, he's not. He has an obligation to his country and his team and that takes precedence over his sister's wedding. When you commit to play for India, you commit to putting cricket above all. Plain and simple.

  • testli5504537 on December 14, 2009, 11:21 GMT

    when i get the news that gambhir is not playing for the third test because of his sisters wedding,i feel something disappointed.Because he is in good form that time.As india wins the third test, no one cares much of it but if india lost then everybody should criticize him.He is playing good innings this time and this type of criticism is not good for his career.

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